In my last blog I brought my attention to creating versus consuming. In the wellness game, my primary relationship is just that, primary. What am I creating in that arena? Do I dare have a closer look?
Most happily married men know and live by the adage, “When she’s happy, I’m happy.” So is she? Do I dare ask? I know from coaching my clients that wives are almost never as happy as hubbies believe. Usually by a large margin. So do I just ask her?
I’ve discovered a question that allows for her to express her feedback in a constructive way. “Honey, what are 3 things you want more from me?” And then I listen. Frankly, I pack a lunch! I’m ready for anything and I know I might be in for a ride. The gift of being deeply listened to cannot be underestimated. I remind myself of that as I hear my personality wanting to defend, explain and generally skate hard to maintain looking good. So I smile at the antics of my personality, I open my heart to the desires of my partner and my relationship gets to live another day.